For a long time now, I’m been wanting a tribe of woman friends – and I feel like I am beginning to have one. They don’t all live in the same city as me – but we all have something in common. Mackenzie & I met on an app while I was living in Birmingham looking for models while going through a fashion photography phase. I was anxious about losing her when we moved to Montgomery in May but she’s come to visit me pretty regularly. Last time she visited we went to Alabama Safari Park. Last time Edward & I went to a Safari park in Georgia (my first time at one) the petting zoo part made me cry because all of the animals seemed so trapped & miserable, but this one was different. There was also a massive aviary with lots of parakeets in in that you could feed. Mackenzie has such a soft spot for animals. She’s a bit wary of cats, even Beatrice, but she loves Sam to pieces. She likes his nickname, Moose, because that was her animal name at summer camp once as a child. Also, how could anyone not love Sam?
Another woman friend I have in my tribe is Jessica. She was the first friend I made in Birmingham. I haven’t seen her since I moved to Montgomery but we still text sometimes and she always has the best things to tell me. Jessica is my spiritual friend. She recently texted me a book recommendation & we talked about starting a little two person, over the phone book club. She’s a blogger too, which is how we met (at the one & only blogging meet-up either of us ever attended) and spent a ridiculously kind amount of time trying to help me figure out what my blog’s problem was when it was at artistashuman.com and glitching out. She’s wicked smart and also loves animals & plants & has the most beautiful, easy-going style I have ever seen.
I meet them in unexpected places. I met a woman named Jessie at the dog park on Sunday and we hit it off so she & her dog, Pig, came over to our house for like 5 hours yesterday and we just talked & talked & talked while Sam & Pig played. It was amazing! I’ve been so isolated since I moved to Montgomery – I’ve literally said to Edward, “How can I find another woman friend who doesn’t work during the day to spend time with me and is understanding of my anxiety struggles? How do I even begin to look for such a person?” Then appears Jessie. I feel like I almost willed her into being lmao. Her man is in law school (read: busy like Edward), she LOVES dogs & is super intuitive about them, she doesn’t work right now because her anxiety is also through the roof & SHE NEEDS SOMEONE TO HANG OUT WITH DURING THE DAY OR ELSE SHE’S KINDA TRAPPED AT HOME – sound familiar?
We all have mental health struggles in common, all of the women in my little spread out tribe. And a love of animals. There’s something about us that just finds & understands each other because of it I think. There’s some kind of magnetism between those of us who have brains that don’t function quite along the rules they are “supposed to.” Maybe it’s because when the rest of the world is telling you to just “not be” depressed or manic or anxious or “too much” or whatever it is, and you meet someone who knows those feelings & can relate to them instead of trying to just tell you to basically “pull yourself out of it,” you feel seen. We recognize each other. We find each other.